thanks for all your responses, even those with points of view that differed a bit from my own.
for the guy i have talked to him inside the game, and made it clear to him that i have taken him and his girlfriend off my msn, and i dont bump into him much in the game, and tend to try avoiding it, as i dont wish to talk with him.
and for the part i wrote about him having quit, well i thought he had quit for good, but seems he came back.

i made one of these "vet tumbo" (one of these cones, that make them unable to lick themselves at the place) out of some common carton and clipsed it on him. he is very very pissed at me right now and refuse to be near me. i just hope it will help.

sorry to misuse the name of a religious figure in that way, but this cat is really problematic...

i am taking care of my parents pets while they are on vacation, and one of their cats has been in a fight where he was bitten in his tail...

now normally i wouldnt see it as a problem, but the cat keeps licking the place so that the tail has no hair in the region, and the wound is kept open (though not bleeding).

does anyone know of an effective way of getting the cat to stop licking the wound so it can start healing and grow hair back?

you make a good point krissby, they probably both have some good qualities about them that i cared for, though the thought of the moments when i decided to cut them off was that they weren't good for much, and that they had proved no maturity whatsoever.

on the part you say of his girlfriend with the kisses, i can tell you that i actually have said something in the lines of the one you stated to her at a time. the answer i get is just that she doesn't care what he thinks of her blowing kisses to other guys and flirting with them while being in a relationship.

if i am to let them somewhat back, i would have to find the reason again why i liked them, and need something that surpasses their failures, in other words they would have to prove themselves.

Gina
you got my exact thoughts, that they gotta learn the value of money. and that friendship can't just be onesided and you have to back each other up.

the problem as i see it though is that theyre both so much in to their parents pockets and parents not caring. and while their parents are telling them to get an education and they are both (or so they have told me) getting one. him studying programming and she wishes to study archeology.
i have told them more than once that if their parents suddenly stopped reinforcing them with cash, they would really have to find out how to value money. both of them just have the thought that this is never gonna happen.

i too was slapped as a child, for bad behaviour.
if i didnt behave, i could get a spanking
if i beat up my younger siblings i would get a spanking
if i attempted to shoplift i would get a spanking
if i was rude against my parents i would get a spanking

and i don't think ive suffered from this, i think it put me in my place, and taught me to behave.
one thing is a spanking in the bottom, another is using a fist
a fist doesn't teach respect, it teaches fear
a spanking in the bottom has no long term effects and doesn't break any bones, and is in my opinion an ok punishment if a child behaves very badly.

im the middle brother, with 3 younger siblings ang 2 older.

and yes i did feel like my parents were giving extra attention to some of my other siblings, when i lived at home.

now that i live at my own place, the only one left to get special attention is my youngest brother who still lives with my parents.

for who they favoured when i lived at their place:
my father didn't really favor one special sibling, as i remember it
my mom though, clearly favored my youngest brother and my oldest sister
youngest brother, because he was the one constantly being put in his place by his older brothers, and my older sister for being the one who had gotten furthest in her life.
its mostly guessing though, as i can't really read their minds, however i do believe they love all their children.

i deleted him off msn, and he stopped playing the game after recieving ingame threats from people he had scammed, that wanted payback, that didn't give a damn about his real life economy.

as for his girl friend i personally wouldn't use the term whore, but might use the word cheap.
thanks for your response melymay

a friend i made in a game about 3-4 years ago, and his girlfriend both of whom i finally had a flip on that made me wish not to being their msn buddy any more.

this i think is gonna be a long story and made end up as a wall of text, so if youre not into that, you might aswell hit the back button now.

okay story goes that i made friends with him purely by coincidence arround 4 years ago.
it started back in the game conquer online, when this was a fairly new game.
back when you could not use real life cash on getting your levels.
we decided to share msn, as we had a common interest in anime, girls, gaming and music.
we discussed many such topics on msn and often advised each other on new anime's to watch, music to try and tips for the game.
later on we both got tired of the game and went to try new stuff together, which went fine.
now about the same time as we changed games, he also introduced me to his girlfriend, a sweet girl about the same age as he (he is 5 years younger than me and im 23)
his girlfriend liked chatting to me mostly about private stuff, and not as much about game or anime, even though these were common interests among us aswell.
now while they were a nice couple she has always had a tendency to nick on me, if i would come visit her in her country. my answer was always that i cannot afford it, since im a student and in no way rich.
through conversation with her i also later found out that they are both kids of rich couples in their countries, and are therefore spoiled senseless.
she then proposes that she can come see me, by flying up here to visit.
personally i wouldn't mind her visiting, but if i were her i would be a little more careful than simply wanting to jump on the next plane, to meet someone you have only met online.
now she never came to visit me though she said over and over that she would (maybe she got cold feet or maybe someone knocked a bit of sense into her head, either way i dont care)
now about a year ago, i suddenly became more of the person they went to when they had something on their heart (real life problems). i would try as much as possible to help them through asking questions and coming up with possible solutions to the problems.
i really didnt mind helping them mostly, later on though it became almost too often, and they would drag friends of their own with them into a chat with me to have me help them with social problems aswell.
now being in my early 20's but having a lot more experience than them, as said. i didnt mind helping the 2. but i'm not a counselor i dont get paid to help them with social problems and i tried to help them as best as i can, but i really really do not wish to counsel someone i have no clue about who is. so in the end if they dragged friends along, i would give them a few lines of advice, but refuse to give them my full evening to hear their stories aswell.
worst is when some of them tried to add me to their msn so i could help them again, i refused that, and that at times made the 2 angry, that i would help them but refuse helping friends of theirs, some of whom were no more than 13 years old...
i told them that i did not want to counsel their friends or their younger siblings.
when i then started having real life trouble myself and trying to ask them advice, i would often get either a "lol" or "dont know how to help you"
this kind of annoyed me, as i would think that in a friendship the help should be able to go both ways, and that even though they may not be skilled at advising people, they might be able to look better through my trouble than myself.
now about a week or two ago we start playing the first game again, that we had once went away from, but while the game had changed the ways of the community in the game had not. he wished to gain social status in the game by showing off to everyone that he could afford using paypal as often as he wanted.
a way which i disagreed very strongly about, as these friends will turn their back the minute you arent flashing your cash anymore, the minute they find out that you arent sharing it with them.
this and having to listen to drunken stories from him, and having his girlfriend over and over sweettalking me while, while praising her dimwit drunken boyfriend.
i was laying on my bed an evening and decided that "well ive given alot to them, but they have given very little back", and generally i almost felt used.
all this brings me up to deleting them as contacts, isimply found that i did not want to give advice to them anymore, and i did not want to hear sweettalk from the girl anymore. (in general i really hate being sweettalked to by anyone as i find it totally pointless to have someone call you sweet and sent kisses either by sms or IM, as anyone can do it in a message while they would never dare it in real life)
if you have actually read through aaaaallll this damn rant of mine, i give you a little respect, and now wish to hear your opinion if you think i did the right thing in stopping contact with them, if i should have done so alot earlier or think i should re-add them, and please do argument for what you say.

now this is a question i asked myself when i was looking for a new wallpaper girl for my desktop today.

i was looking through both minitokyos girl wallpapers and those on boyis, and what i was looking for was a cute girl posing (none in particular) and was flipping pages, seeing a lot of cute girls posing, but then i thought: lets look for something extraordinary, lets try to find a beautiful girl posing alone on a wallpaper, that actually looks happy, or is smiling. and now honestly i didnt look through every single page, that would simply take too long, but of the 20 first pages on both here and boyis, i found very little wallpapers that actually fit this description...

so here is the thought, how come there are made so little wallpapers with posing anime girls that actually look happy?

i have a very hard time saying those words to any person.
not even my parents or siblings do i say such to.
neither do i tell it to friends while intoxicated and having a really good time.
of the girlfriends ive had i have always found it very hard to say aswell.

the girl im currently in love with, i still havent found the courage to tell either....
and yes ive gotten the remark about "why not just tell her" a few times, but still scared of rejection...

for me the words just feel awkward, the person i tell these words really needs to be special.

probably someone i would consider a mix of my two best friends, but with a few more personal skills.

trustable with everything
same humor as me
someone i dont need to advice, but can advice me
a person who knows how to push me when i really need to get something done that i havent gotten done
a person who will give me their honest opinion in cases where i'd ask
those are the skills i'd like to see

number 1 is definitely electric guitar, a good guitarist can often make up for a terrible singer/vocalist imo

tanja was definately the best of the two, her voice was just much better suited for the kind of music they make.
though i do think they were right in firing her for being such a cunt.
anette olzon is an ok singer, but her voice really doesnt fit very well with the power metal music they make.

The one thing that can probably annoy me the most, is when people start asking why i dont have a girlfriend (and no im not into boys), when people start asking me such, it just frustrates me and gets me depressed.
because i know the answers to the question, but dont know how to solve the problem.
ive been told numerous times, that i am an attractive guy, and that im smart, and really shouldnt be having this kind of problems.
i might be smart, and i might be attractive, but when it comes to the part of taking action when attracted to someone of the opposite gender, i am a failure, i really suck at it.
i get responses like "why not just tell her you like her?" and my simple answer is im scared of rejection. and the way to cure being scared of rejection, being scared of changes in life, is the big thing i dont know the answer to.
to make it even worse, im often the one guy people go to to get personal problems resolved, but not being able to find someone to help me resolve my own problems.

they really just havent figured they need to make changes for this page to stay among the best, or maybe they are afraid that a bit of changes will scare everybody away - well heres a newsflash if you don't you will have even more people running away bcs this site is so frickin slow compared to all the others

its very very slow, and boyis and other anime sites have actually topped it in loading speed they are all faster than here
they need to make some other offers thn people donating money

ive never had problems with pictures in gmail, and i often send arround 20 or 30 images at a time with it

if you want any just ask even if you want two or three or four or all of them, just send a message to me, and if anyone should be in need of more ive got a friend with another 50

as i am making signature images for friends, i am in need of pictures with weapons that are easy cut out of wallpapers or drawings, if you have some that are extremely good, do please send a copy to my gmail: cerberus20@gmail.com
if you want to see some of the art i have made by combining things and using Open canvas 3.06 look into either of these two sites
http://www.geocities.com/cerberusdt/Second.html
and
http://www.geocities.com/cerberusdt/NA3ArtForFriends.html

i became a bronze goat!!

i bought a dvd, from a company that put out the samurai pizza cats on dvd last year, the bad side was i had to pay like 20$ + 10$ in transport for then to find out that it was region coded, so could only watch it on my computer with windvd, bcs it had the region code installed

samurai pizza cats was a humourous anime from 1990 (i was 6 years old then) about 3 cats who worked on a pizza restaurant(polly, speedy and guido), meanwhile they were also superheroes, and when trouble started they jumped in to a secret slide in three ovens where they changed armor and was then shot out through a giant cannon
polly's special was her claws and hearts that she could shoot out
speedy had 2 magical shurikens and could cut any of the giant robots over with his special move
guido had an umbrella, with which he could shoot out superheated sunwaves or hypnotizing rays

the evil ones
Big cheese - is a part drag queen (likes to dress up as a gisha) and is the evil boss who tries to take over little tokyo (the city where they all live)
Bad Bird - the leader of the crows and is the mercinary of big cheese, a warrior that always is a pain in the ass to the three kitties

well i don't see it as a problem getting older than 20, i enjoy getting there, the thing with age and power just keeps hanging together, just for anargument to that about being over 20.

then the part of nostalgie - well we should remember the good old animes the classics and those even older that are almost considered being a nostalgie to remember, i have watched many good animes in my time (which i want to remember and am good at remembering) and then those bad over commercialized ones (e.g. Transformers, Bey-blade, Duel-masters,Yu-gi-oh, pokemon, digimon( i hope i don't need to mention further to let you know the types i mean)) i hate when they just put up a new anime or cartoon, just to sell more redicolous plastic toys
i havent seen that many of the uncommercialized so can't give that many examples of them, (only one i can remember just now, is chobits(quite funny and quite good too)) that is what i see as what we should have but haven't got too much of

i think it would be very hard for me to live without my cellphone, it keeps me in contact with both family and friends, (and then there are the unwanted calls) but wouldn't be able to keep as much contact with friends and family without it. i bought one of those shock/splash/dust proof phones bcs i had an accident with the former(spilled bear out on it, and never turned on again) anjd couldn't keep as good and near a contact as i want with friends and family in the time between it getting destroyed and the time to i got the new one

my question was actually if anyone knew the old anime called samurai pizza cats?, i guess i didn't make that clear enough but old anime doesn't suck, much of that we get on tv now a days are just commercialized bullshit, where they want you to buy a whole series of items or other stuff